No one can really, truly prepare you for a breakup. Every single one you go through will be different from the last and there is nothing you can do to make it any easier. But I have learned a few things from going through one recently.
1. There are going to be times where you feel amazing and some days where you wanna curl up in a ball and cry all day
2. Crying about them is okay, it is how the body let’s out emotion. Just don’t spend weeks crying.
3. You are going to want to do impulsive things to gain some kind of control in your life because you feel like you lost all control in one way or another
4. Doing those impulsive things (if they won’t harm you) can really help the healing process
5. Being around the people that love you is so important
6. It is OKAY to not be okay all the time. There will be times where you will cry in the middle of the afternoon in the car in a target parking lot and that is okay.
7. At least for me I have wanted to hook up with people that I didn’t think I wanted to. To feel that kind of intimacy again
8. You have to take care of yourself. Take baby steps if you need to but you have to continue life. Times doesn’t stop sadly even when you want it to.
9. This one is the most important one. You will be okay. Maybe not now, or in a few days or a few weeks or even a few months but you will be okay. Sadly it takes time. But a good thing is that it isn’t the end of the world. You will find someone who will fill you even more than your ex did. I can promise you that.
All these things I have learned from this break up and previous ones. On top of things people have told me. You are strong and you will get through this even when you think you can’t. And one day you won’t feel this lingering pain in your chest all the time. I am not even there yet. But I am slowly getting there and that is what matters.
Angels in the stars 